Singer Tems Wants A ‘God-fearing Man’

Nigerian singer, songwriter and record producer, Temilade Openiyi, popularly known as Tems, has shared her perspective on marriage, saying it should be driven by growth and purpose rather than mere emotions.

Abia Radio News reports that the Grammy-winning artist stated that while love is important, it should not be the sole foundation for such a lifelong commitment.

Speaking during a recent interview with media personality Angie Martinez, Tems noted that marriage is not always smooth and should be approached with realistic expectations.

According to her, couples must understand that challenges are inevitable and part of the journey.

The singer emphasised the importance of accountability in relationships, revealing that she prefers a partner who is God-fearing.

“My partner has to be a God-fearing man. Because why would you truly love me if you don’t have anyone that you answer to? If you’re not accountable to anyone, how could you choose to love and keep loving me for the rest of our lives?” she said.

Tems argued that relationships built solely on feelings may not stand the test of time, stressing the need for deeper compatibility.

“If you’re the god of your life, why would you love me forever? You could just discard me anytime you want,” she added.

She further explained that marriage should foster personal growth and transformation.

“But marriage is something that makes you better as a human being. It should. It shouldn’t be about only love, it’s about compatibility. It’s about whether a relationship makes you a better person, like it evolves you,” she said.

The singer concluded that marriage represents a higher level of commitment that inevitably reveals both strengths and weaknesses in a relationship.

“Because marriage is a whole another level, it’s supposed to bring out the hard times,” she stated.